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Thursday
Dec142006

Christmas drives into town

Today is the day my husband E has been dreaming about since September.

Today he picks up our new car.

Now getting a new car is always exciting, but for us it’s an especially big deal because we haven’t bought a new car in, hmmmm, I think 13 years. Yeah, 13 years.

Our last two cars were purchased second-hand from E’s mom. They were fine, serviceable, low-mileage, four-door sedans. The last one even had bells and whistles we probably never would have splurged on if we’d bought a new car, so in our modest household, it was practically a luxury vehicle. But, at the risk of sounding petty, they weren’t OUR cars. We didn’t bond with them in that strange metaphysical way that people bond with the cars they pick out—you know, giving them names, assigning them personalities, seeing them as an extension of the family. (What? You don't know what I'm talking about? Y'all are lying...right?)

After a summer of wrestling with trying to get our American-made car serviced here in Belgium, E started thinking of buying a European car. Soon he was in touch with some dealers, bringing home car brochures, and Googling endlessly in the evenings. Before long he had his heart set on a mid-size Volvo wagon, and he began poring over options and features with all the anal retentiveness you’d expect from a middle-aged engineer.

Mostly I was an observer during the car-shopping phase, though after E took me for a test drive in the Volvo model he was considering, I noted that it didn’t have cup holders. Cup holders! That feature was invented in the land of long highways, big commutes, fast food restaurants, and 24-hour stores selling takeaway coffee and Slurpees. Cup holders are not standard equipment in Europe where eating and drinking in the car is unthinkable. If a European is going to have a cup of coffee, he’ll be drinking it from a dainty cup WITH a saucer and sitting at a table with a napkin in his laps. By God, only hyperactive, barbaric American road hogs eat and drink in their vehicles as if eating is an afterthought, a necessary evil to be wedged in between appointments and cell phone calls.

But I digress.

As I was saying, my only contribution to the whole car-buying process was telling E to make sure the car had a place for me to stash a water bottle. In the end, E ordered all sorts of options and accessories, including a special lumbar support pillow for my back and pocket organizers for the kids' stuff. See why I married him? What a guy!

But I get another perq as well. Regular readers know we are a one car family here in Belgie, and that for the past two years, I've  used public transit to get around. Every few months you can count on a post detailing some horrible experience involving walking in blowing rain, getting splashed by passing cars, missing bus or Metro connections, and spending an hour or two getting to a place that’s a 15 minute drive from house.

Depending on the bus schedule, I’m always either very early or a bit late for my appointments. I spend obscene amounts standing around—waiting, waiting, and waiting. I have built my entire wardrobe around public transit, from my dozen jackets and coats suited to every permutation of Belgian weather to my many pairs of comfortable and boring shoes, designed to traverse miles of cobblestones and urban sidewalks, often at an accelerated clip. (Must. Make. The. Bus. Or. I. Will. Have. To. Wait. An. Hour!). Even my handbags are required to be lightweight, waterproof, and have an easy-access pocket for my bus or Metro pass Plus I have a selection of backpacks, tote bags, and rolling duffles to help me when I go shopping and have to schlep my purchases home.

But now I’m a free woman. Since there isn’t much of a market for our American model car here, we’ve decided to just keep it. Yes, the annual taxes on it exceed the value of the car itself, but now I won’t have to go out in driving rain or bitter cold. I won’t have to grapple with back pain because I dared to buy milk and canned goods at the store, forgetting how heavy those bags would become as I walked home. I will be able to make quick trips to the grocery store on my own and buy whatever we need. I’m dizzy with freedom.

But don’t expect long posts about places I’m exploring on my own in Belgium. It’s a land of narrow winding roads, unmarked streets, traffic circles, five-way intersections, random parking, and the confusing and dreaded rule of priority right (where all cars entering the road from the right side have priority over the cars already on the main road).  Belgium has one of the highest (if not the highest) traffic fatality rates in Europe. Driving is a free for all. The otherwise low-key Belgians like to create their own lanes, play chicken, and drive drunk. No, I won’t be venturing out onto the highways or wandering far from home, but at least I’ll have the option of staying warm, dry, and wearing high-heeled boots while I’m out running errands in my village this winter. Merry Christmas to Me!

Copyright 2006 Veronica McCabe Deschambault. All rights reserved. www.v-grrrl.com.

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Reader Comments (14)

oh yes, cup holders. i've slowly been americanizing my belgian boyfriend and, after spending time in america and learning the wonders of drinking (coffee/soda, etc) and driving, he began to hate his cup holder-less european car. but we found a cup holder that attaches to your air vent at "the euro shop" (i dont know if theres one near you)
and i agree about the crazy belgian drivers! just recently during one of the alcohol controls, my friend was stopped, and though sober, was informed that 1 in 8 of the drivers that night was drunk! its insane!!and on those winding little back roads i feared for my life on my bike, and have just recently been diving a bit and still fear for my life! you rarely see a stop sign and i think right-of-way here means, exactly what you said, play chicken.

but i am so jealous of you freedom as i just had a day where i only JUST made all forms of public transportation and now, i sit, literally sweating from trying to bike my way as fast as my legs would pedal to the market before they closed for lunch.
ps--i just made it there too.

lucky you!!!!!
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramanda
Amanda,

I got a bike this summer but yes, due to the narrow roads, intermittent bike paths, and crazy drivers, I decided I really didn't want to ride it into town afterall.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterV-Grrrl
Congratulations!!! Merry Christmas to one and all at Chez V!! How exciting to have a new car! I love my mini-van (how American is that?) but you know, the cup holders aren't as convenient as I'd like (they're too shallow to hold tall cups, like a Big Gulp) and they're not in a good place for the kids in the middle seats - the front seat and back seat passengers are in good shape but not the middle. Enjoy your first drive to the grocery store.
Lynn
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterLynn
I'm not sure who came up with the idea of priority right, but it seems like a deadly idea. When we would rent a car, it would drive us crazy.

Grocery shopping will be so easy now. Enjoy the car.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterecho
Congratulations!! I'm so jealous! We just found out our new Volvo just came in too but the papework for the license plates is taking forever. If we don't receive the paperwork by tomorrow our new Volvo will be sitting pretty at the dealership until Jan. ;( Based on most Belgian attitudes & work ethics I'm not real confident about receiving the paperwork on time. ;(

Enjoy your new taste of freedom! I say you venture out and visit me. ;)
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJavacurls
That's great, V! Happy for you and happy for E-Man, too!
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterShirl Grrrl
FREEDOM! Said with arm in air, fist pumping a la Crazy Mel Gibson in Braveheart.

This could seriously change your entire european existance. My question though, are you going to run into the same problems getting it back to the US in the eventuality that you decide to come back next year?
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterTB
The Volvo meets U.S. specs and can be shipped. We'll probably sell the Oldsmobile or give it away before we return. My husband's employer will only cover the shipping of one car.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterV-Grrrl
Congratulations! After a couple of months you will not be able to believe that you ever managed without a car. I only got my drivers licence last January and my car in February and I have no idea how I managed before. The freedom of being able to choose whether to get wet or not still surprises me 11 months later :)
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAsh
Congrats to you all! I am so glad you won't be subject to the quirkiness of the Belgium bus system and the weather any more! I bet it will make things so much easier. Whatever happened to the V-Mobile? Did that bite the dust or get sold before you entered ex-pat life? Volvos are great, safe cars--enjoy.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterShirley
Now you just have to get a driver. LOL. (Why not?)

My husband keeps trying to buy me a new car. I keep telling him no. I love the fact that there is no car payment at present. My car is just fine. I like it. And I drive as little as possible. I seriously think I just need a driver at my beck and call.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterNance
Shirley,

The V-Mobile was totaled when a tractor trailer rear- ended me as I was stopped in KG, waiting to turn left into the library. Sent my car careening onto the lawn of the library and set me up for more than two months of physical therapy. He was charged and found guilty. A few months later, I was rear-ended in the Oldsmobile at a red light by a teenage girl who was changing lanes and didn't notice that DUH, the light had changed. The day after I got the Olds out of the shop, I was "tapped" in a parking lot at school by a mom who said her foot slipped off the brake.That was all in the seven months before we moved here--another reason I'm not real fond of driving.
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterV-Grrrl
That is interesting about the cup holders. Huh.

But you better be staying off the highways! They sound crazy!!

:)
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramber
Wow, V, I remember you mentioning that horrible chain of accidents before, but somehow never connected the disappearance of the V-mobile. Driving can be very scary sometimes. It's amazing really how often things don't go wrong. Thanks for answering, though I kind of feel bad for surfacing those memories. New, safe car though for you guys--woo hoo!
December 14, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterShirley

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